I have learned a long time ago that holding a grudge hurts the one that is doing the holding.
My dad was mad at his dad for a long time. His dad died before I was born and it wasn’t until I was an adult that I found out the issues at home weren’t my doing.
There is a family member who has been upset with Gpa since we were kids. When he first got diagnosed, I told her now is the time to clear the air. But she hasn’t and she brought up the story again during the holidays.
That’s a long time.
I’m not going to hold a grudge against my friend, but I am going to set some boundaries.