I have had this blog post hanging over my head for several months now. Gpa died last year in January. I have been dealing with all sorts of emotions and life events.
I haven’t wanted to talk or write about them.
The first year after a loss of a loved one is hard. At times it is unbearable, but we bear it anyway. At times there is surprise there is something to look forward to or laugh at now. The first year can drag on. Here comes another holiday or event we used to celebrate but now it’s different.
Then after the first year anniversary of the death, time speeds up. This year, 2014, will be the 20th anniversary of my mother and grandmother passing away. 20 years! ? ! Where did the time go. That can’t be possible.
And now for a whole new set of emotions and life events to deal with. My grandchildren will only know them through pictures and stories. And they live across the country. I’m not sure when and where I’ll get to share all the things about these women I’d love for them to know. And I’m not sure I have the words to convey the very essence of who they were. After all, a lot of time has passed.
And how does one celebrate the 20th anniversary of the loss of a loved one?
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Consider writing you ememories of them, one short memory at a time. I have put together Shutterfly books about loved ones with poctures and a
Ittle biographical information. They make nice gifts. Make sure to go over old pictures and write names on the back. It is a good way to start, and you can write about the events in the pictures when you feel like writing.
Grief takes time. I miss my mom still — every day, though sometimes now I don’t think of her firet thing in the morning. I am glad time has helped you some. If you want to continue blogging, consider blogging those memories of your mother and grandmother to help you get something written for your grqndchildren.
Write when you are ready. No need t rush. Take care of yourself.